Tuesday, September 05, 2006

Still the one

Since Mr. Diva started working the evening shift, the kids and I have created our own little Tuesday routine. I picked up a new baby just two days a week and I don't budget the money I make from him into the family bill-payin' money. It originally was going to be casino money (Gee, how shocking that that thought entered my mind), but instead it turned into Sonic money. When Mr. Diva would leave for work on Tuesdays I'd hand him $10 and then when my last kid left at 5:30, the kids and I would load up and head to Sonic and then the frozen custard shop to blow the rest.

Well, today was Mr. Diva's first Tuesday on day shift and when we started loading up this evening he looked at us all rather strangely. His first question was, "Where do you think you're going? We haven't had dinner yet!" I said, "That's where we're going. If you want dinner, you'd better get to the van." So off to Sonic we went. It cost a little more this week what with an extra person, but it was our first whole-family dinner in awhile, so I didn't mind. We enjoyed it.

On the way home, I realized how good I have it right now. Our marriage hasn't always been perfect and sometimes it wasn't even remotely good. In 1998, we had decided to separate, then found out that we were pregnant with Sam and decided to stay together until he was born. Then after Sam was born I guess we just decided it was too much of a hassle to divorce since we had two kids now and we stuck it out. We've run through some really rough times, but this new job has given us hope that we'll make it after all. Now he's more like the man I married 13 1/2 years ago than the cranky, sullen grouch that I've lived with for the last 6 years - I have my husband back. Now I can only see it getting better.

I was having a real moment right then. I was driving down the highway, the windows were down, the radio was on, I had a belly full of Sonic food, the kids had found a leftover garage sale box in the backseat and were foraging through it, my husband was sitting in the seat beside me - Oh yeah, I thought, my life is good. I punched the button to change radio stations and stopped on Shania's "Still the One". I reached over to put my hand on my husband's leg and turned to give a quick smile to the man who is still the one for me.



Yep. It doesn't get much better than this.

5 comments:

Melessa Gregg said...

Thanks for this. We're in the 'not even remotely good' stage right now and since I don't really want to raise four kids by myself, it's nice to see a ray of hope out there that things could get better for us too. (There are no serious problems, just those "canky, sullen grouch ones" that you mentioned.)

Queen Of Cheese said...

I had a similiar thought the other day! Maybe I'm too stubborn to give up or maybe I just like knowing I piss him off just as much if not more than he does me. That's what keeps me going, knowing I'm more irritating than he is.......

MamaKBear said...

Awwww!

LOL...I love that pic of Mr. Diva! I need as many smiles as I can get right now...

Jennifer said...

AWWWWWWW so sweet.. I am so glad you are happy...

GERBEN said...

Holy Crap I think we are married to brothers! Eeck!

For real, it's sweet to see you all happy!

Now I must find my camera and get pics of my hubby and his crazy hats! *grin* The resemblance is uncanny

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