Comments on Redneck Diva: Drive-by

I don't have any reletives that I was ever close e...

2009-10-19T14:25:23.864-05:00

I don't have any reletives that I was ever close enough to that I would ever visit. But I do have my Pastor that I've visited a few times in the 3 years that he's been gone.
Mike's wishes are to be cremated, half of his ashes sprinkled off the back of a bike somewhere in mountains, the other half flushed down the toilet. How Mike is that? I bet his gf doesn't know that about him.
My wishes are to not be emballmed. I want the fall organ harvest, then bury me quickly without emballming me. I don't want my body drained of my blood. Is that weird? Actually, no, it's not, I read about it in a magazine one time and it's, get this, called "Green burial". How awesome is that? I already knew this was what I wanted, and to find that there's a name for it and it's named GREEN burial, that sealed the deal for me.

I can say that I drive by my grandparent's graves ...

2009-09-20T19:17:38.490-05:00

I can say that I drive by my grandparent's graves at least 2 or 3 times a week. It just so happens that they built a Wal-Mart Super Center across the street. Of course it wasn't there when they were burried. Now the humor in this comes because I know that my grandma would just laugh and think it was funny because she now gets to "see" me more often! Never mind the fact I wouldn't have chosen for the store to be there but the irony of it is priceless.

I agree with you about your final wishes and mine are pretty much the same. My kiddo's (ages 8 & 10 at the time) were able to attend their first funeral this last year and I had the opportunity to have this same discussion with them. I do believe they understand my feelings about this.

I love this post... I totally understand -- My Gr...

2009-09-20T18:15:09.753-05:00

I love this post... I totally understand -- My Grannie took care of Grandpa's grave until she just wasn't able anymore; she died when I was 21. I was there for her services but I didn't go back on my own until one day last fall. I totally agree, she's not there -- In my heart and in my mind, she's in the kitchen cooking some variety of pork that I wouldn't dare eat, or checking the classifieds for another rent house 'cause she loooooved to move.

Personally, I do visit the cemeteries where my lov...

2009-09-20T15:54:07.485-05:00

Personally, I do visit the cemeteries where my loved ones were buried when I can. I know that they aren't "there", but it is still somehow comforting to sit there at their last resting place and feel close to them while I talk about just everyday things. How big the kids are getting, who lost a tooth, etc.

Unfortunately, my most loved ones, like my GGrandpa and GGrandma and hubby's Dad are all spread out over Oklahoma, and I don't get to visit much.

You go on and grieve for your Nana who is still so fresh on your mind the best way for you. She understands if you don't come stand in front of her headstone. In fact, I bet she knew you well enough that she would be surprised if you did. I also bet that she smiled down at you and waved as you drove by. *Hugs*